Today’s Featured Couple is Doug & Tammy!
Every couple has valuable treasure hidden in their relationship. The Spouse Dates Featured Couple Interview is designed to “mine” some of that treasure in order to share it with you.
As you read Doug & Tammy’s story I hope you find a gem, jewel or golden nugget that will be encourage and inspire you in our own marriage!
Doug and Tammy have been married for 25 years! They have three children, two sons (19 & 8) and a daughter (15). Doug owns a business with his brother-in-law. Tammy is a stay-at-home mom, licensed social worker, and author. Her first book is titled “The Power of Compassion: Reflections of Hope and Healing”. She is currently in the process of writing another book. Check out Tammy’s Facebook Page Here.
How did you first meet?
We met during college through a mutual friend. The first time we were introduced to one another was at a church on our college town. We got to know each other a little during car pool rides home from college.
What was your first date?
Our first date was January 5, 1990. We went to the movie “Steel Magnolias” and then for dinner afterwards at the Hard Rock Café.
As a couple, what is something you have struggled with or a difficulty you have overcome? How would you encourage other couples that may be facing the same challenge?
We used to struggle with making time to have fun with one another. In the challenges and trials of life, we have taken communication and parenting very seriously. It was easy for us to get so serious and focused on talking about the serious issues that we were neglecting putting problems aside, and getting out to have some fun together. If this was another couple’s challenge, our advice would be to make time for fun even if you don’t feel like it. Even if you are on a tight budget, you can still get out without spending much money, and find things to laugh about. Just a change of scenery can refresh a couple.
What was your best date ever and what made it so outstanding?
Our best date was a bed and breakfast anniversary overnight getaway in southeast Ohio. It was a particularly busy time in our lives, the kids were younger, and we were getting little rest or time with one another. We went on a long fall hike in some scenic woods in back of the bed and breakfast property, and then had a delicious candle-light dinner served to our room.
It was outstanding because it seemed like so long since we relaxed, and could just focus on one another without interruption, for an extended period of time.
What are some marriage resources that have helped you build a better marriage?
Tell us about an “Aha!” moment that has helped you become a better spouse.
Tammy: When I realized how valuable being intentionally honoring and respectful is to the relationship, especially in front of our children and in public.
Doug: When I realized there are times to be extra sensitive about what I say and how I say it.
If you could go back in time and give your newlywed selves one piece of marriage advice, what would that be?
Tammy: Look for and affirm your spouse’s strengths often.
Doug: Make time to have fun.
When you think about your future together, what are you most excited about?
Watching new ways that God will use the strengths he has built in us individually and together, to show His love and bring heaven to earth.
Is there any other advice you would like to give to newly married couples?
When you are tempted to be critical of your spouse, instead look at your spouse’s strengths that you can learn from to improve your character.
Keep flirting with one other!
Approach marriage like a ministry, pray for your spouse, and keep an intimate relationship with God first.
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