I’m a car guy. Most guys I know like cars. We’d love to hang out in Jay Leno’s garage and take his cars for a spin. Even better we’d love to have the cars.
I enjoy the car TV shows where they find the classic car in the barn covered in dust waiting to be unveiled, restored and put back into commission again.
I often wonder why the car got put in the barn in the first place. I’m sure it was to protect it. But in doing so it was neglected. It was forgotten. And its purpose was diminished.
What does a neglected, dust covered car in the barn have to do with dating your spouse?
Actually, quite a bit. Here are 3 Ways Dating Helps Our Relationship with Our Spouses:
1. Dating Prevents Neglect
When we don’t spend time with our spouse, our marriage becomes like that car in the barn. It starts to gather dust. The rubber gets hard and brittle. The oil and gas begin to breakdown.
It’s a slow process but it still occurs. We can’t neglect our spouses and expect our relationship to be pristine and without problems. Get the dust off go out and date.
2. Dating Helps Our Purpose
When that classic got put in the barn it lost its purpose. The car was designed for transportation. But that wasn’t its singular purpose. It was also built for fun. Being locked up and protected from the elements and not being driven wasn’t its purpose. [Tweet “Not dating your spouses is ignoring part of your purpose in marriage. Fun.”]
I look forward to each Thursday. It’s “Date Thursday” with my wife and it’s been a priority for years in our marriage. It’s my favorite day of the week. Almost without exception we never miss our “Date Thursday.” Our kids know it’s “Date Thursday.” Even our friends and extended family know its “Date Thursday.”
3. Dating Maintains the Relationship
Dating is like regular maintenance on a car. It’s like a tune up. When we date on a regular basis we’re able to connect. We’re able to communicate about each other’s needs. When we fail to date, we miss things. We miss warning signs of potential problems.
Date your spouse. Every marriage could use a tune-up.
Is the dust building up on your relationship?
Would you like to add fun to your marriage?
Could your marriage use a tune-up?
You are designed to date your spouse.
Set a day, a time and make it a priority.
Date your spouse…you’ll have fun, I know because we do.
This is a guest post by Troy McLaughlin He is a truck driver by night, writer by day, and a happily married father of three. He dates his wonderful bride of 26 years every Thursday. You can find Troy on twitter @thenofactor.